At the beginning of an affair, the cheating mate may exhibit more attentive behavior to his or her spouse. This is possibly due to the guilt the cheater may be feeling at the time.
The person cheating eventually finds fault with the person he/she may be living with. This is to justify the affair in their mind.
Cheating spouses could lose attention in home life activities. They won't exhibit an interest in the livelihood of you, the children, or fix-up projects, i.e. lawn care, house repairs.
Intuition, a gut feeling, usually is a sign you might have a cheating problem. When in doubt check them out!
Cheaters may have a change in sex life (i.e. more sex, less sex) as well as unexplained sexual requests from you.
The cheater will have a definitive change in attitude toward everyone in the home. Especially his or her mate.
Finances: If someone wants to play, they have to pay! Therefore keeping an eye on their money such as work check stub, banking account receipts and balances, or credit card bills will assist in piecing certain spending habits together.
Grooming habits change. Cheaters are more attentive to their personal appearance during an affair. The way they dress, bathe, physical fitness habits change, hair style changes, as well as sudden switch of colognes an body fragrances.
Physical signs to look for - lipstick on a collar, odors of different cologne/perfume scents, underwear secretion stains. Their car might also contain receipts, pieces of paper contianing telephone numbers, addresses, & or condoms.
Monitor your spouse for two weeks. Keep track of the mileage on their car. Monitor the time they leave for work and the time they come home. Keep a calendar and note these times. Monitoring will help to establish a timeline or pattern of activity. If your mate claims to be working late, check their paystub to verify the overtime.
Be tuned in to home telephone calls. Your mate has a tendency to whisper or give quick answers then immediately hang up. Pay attention to hang up calls when you answer the telephone.
Cheaters use cellular telephones frequently to communicate with their lovers. You'll want to get a detailed billing of the calling records. Certain numbers of frequency will stand out. A good area to start looking is for the first number called when your mate first leaves for work and the same number called again right before they return home.
Female cheaters are more discreet in selection of a lover. Most likely because of their concern of Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD's). Most females are looking for a longer lasting relationship rather than a "one night stand." In past years men were the aggressors, with the increase of women in the work force, women have become equally aggressive.
When a female is having an affair, she tends to have more of a "glow" about her.